You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful – Amy Bloom.
Have you ever noticed that in the run up to your holiday, you’re constantly worrying about every bump and roll and crease that hugs your body? And then, once you’re actually in a bikini showing it off to the world in a hot country, you couldn’t give two monkeys about what you currently look like because it’s either too damn hot to care, or you’re in holiday mode and that magically brings out the inner confidence in you? I am this person. Except, I’m still the slightly more confident one since returning home too.
I’ve always had big hips and a big bum, and luckily I’ve (mostly) always prided myself on having those curves that haven’t always been “in fashion” or “easily-dressed”. I have no boobs so I feel my bottom half makes up for that lack. Yes, it makes it hard to find the best fitting jeans, which is why I tend to grab my trusted, comfy plain black ASDA leggings that hitch up to my waist; I also know I can’t really wear a body-con due to my slightly rotund gut; and some lengths of dresses don’t work for me because my legs don’t have that muscular shape to them, or are slight, like other long-legged women. I have long thighs too, which is a little strange but I like them so hey, ho.
“Body confidence doesn’t come from trying to achieve the ‘perfect’ body. It comes from embracing the one you’ve already got.”
I’m going to say the same old thing that everyone else says: you’ve only got one body for life, so nourish it, nurture it, and most importantly, love it. Almost everyone has days, weeks, years of disliking, even hating, their bodies and it is demeaning, hurtful; not to mention completely damaging for both our physical health and mental health. The way we perceive our own bodies, through our own eyes, is worth a thousand “you look incredible”s from peers and loved ones, even nice comments on social media. Other people saying that we look great gives us a happiness, even a pretty big confidence boost, for a short amount of time, whereas our own positive mind-set is the one that will keep our own body confidence in a perpetual state of happiness. There’s no point in my telling you how fab you all are until you start believing it for yourself.
Of course, it helps when we wear the best type of clothes for our body. I know that dresses which wrap around and cinch in at the waist are best for me, just as ones that accentuate my lower stomach area aren’t. High-waisted A-Line skirts are also perfect for covering the lumps and bumps that my hips and thighs have alongside dresses which skim my silhouette altogether. As long as you feel like a million dollars and super sexy and confident, in whatever you’re wearing, that is what matters. When we wear something with confidence, we instantly look better because we automatically pull our head and shoulders back instead of crouching and huddling our body together like the (haggered) Evil Queen in Snow White. I must admit, there are still clothes in my wardrobe that I don’t feel 100% in, which end up gathering dust on their hanger because they don’t give me the same feeling that my body confidence boosting clothes do.
“How I feel about myself is more important than how I look. Feeling confident, being comfortable in your skin – that’s what really makes you beautiful” – Bobbi Brown.
How do you feel about your body? Do you think you feel way more confident when you’re in your bikini under the sunshine?
Love, Faye xo
Photos taken at Aphrodite Sands Apartments, Mandria, Cyprus.