You were born an original. Don’t die a copy – John Mason.
Today, I wanted to write something that was a mix between a life update with a profound message behind it. You know when there is something that needs to be said, and it’s on the tip of your tongue, but you’re not entirely sure where you’re going with the thought process, that is exactly how I am feeling whilst putting my thoughts down right this second. All I know is that this post is coming from a place of happiness, pure joy that has been a long time coming for me, and it is here to stay regardless of what happens next, although I am very excited about the future and what kind of journey my life has in store for me.
I am an advocate of being completely yourself around anyone and everyone, but I am also the first person who shies away from unleashing my inner self when I’m surrounded by new people. It’s the classic case of cat’s got your tongue, because for some reason, my mouth is trapped shut. I always feel as though I’ll say something stupid, or silly, and people will think whatever they think. Then, I remember, I’m a twenty-six year old woman who is special in my own way, just as we are all special in unique, various ways. I shouldn’t care what people think. I have great friends and family who love me for me, and that is what counts, as do all of you. There is somebody in this world who loves you exactly the way you are, so why should you change for anybody else? Especially a group of strangers who you may or may not see again.
Three things that I like to keep in mind when I want to remind myself to be me are…
Whether it is through creativity, precision, or even in the small, every day things. When we express ourselves, we are letting our true feelings be shown. If we try and hide a part of ourselves from the world, aren’t we effectively hiding our entire selves? We are who we are and whether that needs to be shown as a huge flamboyance, or as indiscreetly as possible, it shouldn’t be shied away from.
FIND PEOPLE WHO BRING OUT THE BEST IN YOU
This is so important. It took me a little while, but I’ve realised that the people who truly love you will accept every single detail about you. It won’t be up for discussion; there won’t be arguments, and they will even love the wackiness in you. When you find people like that in life, hold onto them and don’t let go, because your entire community of loved ones will also reap the benefits just as much as you will.
DON’T APOLOGISE FOR WHO YOU ARE
This links to the paragraph above. We are who we are, at the end of the day. Nothing and nobody can ever physically change someone, and some people can’t change, no matter how much they try. And, why should they? Why should anyone? Granted, if you are a horrific person, you should probably try and change for the better. For the rest of us, who have bad qualities, but are good people, there is always something that somebody isn’t going to like about us. They’ll have to like it or lump it. For a long time, I really felt like I had to apologise for being who I was. It damaged my self esteem; I had to question myself time and time again. Now, it is as though a weight has been lifted because I can be unapologetically myself, farts and all.
People continually say just be yourself for every stage in life: a job interview, a date, a work meeting. They make it sound like it’s the most natural thing in the world, and that is because it should be. We shouldn’t even have to think when we are being ourself because it is embedded into every ounce of flesh and soul we are made up of. I, for one, am embracing myself more and more, especially the older I get. It gives me confidence and it makes me enjoy my life to the full.
There are times when I try and hide me, but the reality is… I am silly at times, absolutely crazy at others, I burp and fart (because low and behold, that’s what humans do time to time), I can be serious, I can be jealous and I panic and overthink things a lot, especially when I’m responsible for something. But, I am also funny, I am kind, I can write and express my feelings, I can keep secrets for friends and I listen and provide the best hugs when people feel sad. I am only human, after all – just like we all are.
Do you have trouble being yourself? Or, are you completely in tune with yourself that you don’t care what others think?
Love, Faye xo