Extremes are easy. Strive for balance – Colin Wright.
I write this on a Saturday night whilst watching Strictly (and then Despicable Me), after a full day in work… That is what you call balance, right? It can be very hard to balance blogging – with all its different social outlets, photography skills and written content – with the day job, other passions and yano, spending time with loved ones and having time to yourself. Sometimes the scales tip and you end up working late into the night to get things checked and double checked; or they tip the other way and you feel like you have achieved nothing in an entire weekend. It is okay for both of these things to happen, but usually the best way forward to create a balance. I am preaching to myself, too, here. I always work away well into the night and then have to get up early for work the next morning. It is hard trying to figure out the right career path as well as chasing your dreams, but to achieve that, sacrifices have to be made. Nevertheless, doing these three things every day will help achieve day to day happiness. At least, they help me in my daily life in terms of productive levels and keeping my stresses down to a minimum.
MAKE A TO DO LIST
I live my life via to do lists. I have to do lists for the upcoming week, for the day ahead; for blogging, writing, general daily tasks and basically every aspect of my life outside of work. I also make to do lists in work to get me through the day without forgetting something important. Ticking off each task gives me a genuine feeling of giddiness every time, especially if I colour them in pretty pencils. I’m a sucker for making lists look pretty. Another idea is to factor in your down-time. Write watch an episode of Queer Eye or read a chapter of current book. This way, you are already scheduling your happy time. If that is too OTT, don’t do it. I always make a note to read my book, but not to watch telly because I am more than likely to watch multiple hours on Netflix anyway. Prioritising is a good idea. It doesn’t need to be passion or work-focused. Whatever is most important to you on a particular day, make it all about that. If you need a pamper day, or a chill day, tailor your to do list towards that, rather than trying to force a new blog post, photo, or piece of work that is going to be full of crap because your heart isn’t in it.
TAKE FIVE MINUTES TO ONE HOUR FOR YOURSELF PER DAY
I get the bus to and from work every day. I find that instead of aimlessly scrolling through my phone, I prefer to read a few pages of my book. For just twenty minutes in the morning and twenty minutes in the evening (give or take five minutes for traffic), I fully immerse myself in a story that momentarily takes my mind off any worries or stresses of the day. It doesn’t have to be reading. You can watch something on Netflix, treat yourself to a face mask, paint your nails, flick through a magazine, or run a bath. If you need more than one hour, take it. It’s your life and your day to day happiness. Only you know what is best for yourself.
REFLECT ON POSITIVE THINGS FROM THE DAY
It can be very hard after an unrewarding, brutally shit day to try and lift yourself back up again. If work has got you down, or you’ve had a messy argument with a loved one, it can be very hard to go to bed with a smile on your face, ready for a restful night. Chances are you will end up losing sleep and tossing and turning all through the night. Invest in a journal to jot down something positive that happened to you that day. Did you make arrangements with your friend? Did your partner make you laugh so hard you cried? Did you make a stranger smile? Any one thing that cheered you up makes it a day that wasn’t overly crap.
What three things do you do every day to take time for yourself and have a happy daily life?
Love, Faye xo