No one can make you feel inferior without your consent – Eleanor Roosevelt.
Perhaps I’m a little late to be writing about feminism as seen as International Women’s Day was last Friday, but then again: isn’t everyday a new day to talk about feminism, write about feminism, fight for feminism? After sharing a few photos, sharing blog posts and praising every woman in our circles on that one day, it’s like since then, everything has just gone back to normal. At least, that’s how it feels on my social feeds. As long as the conversations are still occurring offline, and the words of praise are still floating around daily, it is still something. Anyway, that is not what I wanted to talk about today. Today, I want to talk about women supporting women. It doesn’t matter if it is online, or offline, a stranger or a friend: as long as we are actively supporting somebody, we are actively making a different in a person’s life.
MORE WOMEN ARE STARTING THEIR OWN BUSINESSES
Whether it is a little extra bit of income on the side, or a full-blown business plan combined with a leap in a new direction, women everywhere are beginning their own ventures and creating something new. A couple that stand out to me are Natalie Butler, who created the amazing Barre Balance here in Liverpool. She has created a space for women to feel safe, completely themselves, and for us to relax and give time back to ourselves. I was lucky enough to be asked to be a part of her launch team in exchange for classes. Now, whenever I get the chance, you can count on me being there. Another talented woman is Albertine Sarah who is launching her own set of candles. It is innovative and new. I haven’t seen any other blogger do something like this, which makes it even more amazing. As women, we should be supporting these new, unique, businesses as well as their owners because – in a world where women are paid in the majority of cases less than their male companions, partners and colleagues – their dedication and hard work is something to be admired and praised. They are forging the pathway for more of us to have the confidence to go after something that we are passionate about too.
MOTHERS AND WIVES
This is not in all cases, but a lot of households, even in this day and age, it is the woman who generally looks after the house and the people in it. These women most likely have jobs too, so why is it that the workload at home isn’t halved? It may be “traditional”, or “the way things have always been”, but isn’t it time that changed? As for the single mothers of the world, hats off to you. I have seen how difficult it is to run a household, go to work, love and care for a child as well as do everything else that life throws at you. It is hard and it is heart-breaking, especially when there is little to no support from schools and the government. I don’t know how these women keep it all together, and it is so important to support those who may not ask for help, or may not show that they are physically exhausted from even one long battle of one particular day.
This comes from that old chestnut of the follow/unfollow game. I go on and on about it all over social because it is so annoying. If you are in this world of blogging simply for your own gain of followers, money, endorsements etc., then you are in it for the absolute wrong reasons. Blogging began as a community. I hold my hands up: I don’t engage as much as I should because blogging, for me, has always been about the writing first. But, I have a circle of bloggers who I adore and genuinely support. If I were to find out that they built their platform with bots and a falseness, I’d be devastated, and so I don’t understand why anybody would want to ruin their integrity by pretending to be supportive, when they are in it for their own gain. There can be as much fake support IRL too. Just don’t do it. You are not a good person if you are a part of a community when you don’t pull your own weight to help somebody else. I know who my real friends are, my real network of support. They may be small, but they are mighty and I would not give them up for anything.
I genuinely cannot believe that period poverty is still a thing. It astounds me that some teenage girls will not go to school, therefore missing out on education, because they cannot afford to supply themselves with sanitary towels and tampons. There is nothing worse than forgetting when you’re due on (me, all the time), and getting caught out in the middle of the day at work, or at school. I’m one of the lucky ones (and I will admit that I just assumed that everyone would be able to afford packs of sanitary towels) and never needed to ask somebody for one because I always had them at home. I was also given some during sex education in my younger years, but there are still schools who do not, or cannot afford to give their girls products that are a necessity. Thanks to Lauren’s IWD posts, I now know that there are two organisations that work specifically to end period poverty: Bloody Good Period and Days For Girls. Head to her blog to find out more.
MORE AND MORE WOMEN ARE MAKING AN IMPACT
Women across the globe are becoming more and more inspirational. It doesn’t matter whether they are a huge influencer who is bossing their career on their own terms, a congresswoman who fights against a patriarchal society day in, day out, a presenter who challenges everyone with feminist protests, a poet who shares her trauma through beautiful words, or the women who don’t have a platform, but instead make an impact on our individual lives. These are the women we strive for, the women who inspire us and the women who need our support more than ever. We are at a turning point in this world, and in order for us to make a stand to end all inequalities (I haven’t even touched the surface), these are the women who will make change happen, no matter how big, or how small. If we work together, instead of tearing each other apart, I truly believe change will happen and the world will be a better place for ourselves, our daughters, and all of the future generations to come.
What do you think?
Love, Faye xo